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What Does Confidence Entail?
You may think you know what it takes to be confident, but what is confidence actually? According to psychologists, it’s the belief that you can do anything. Confidence is often what feels different about you. We often reach for confident people to learn how to be confident ourselves. They’re usually the ones who seem most at ease with what they do.
Confidence is an incredibly complex topic. More than just feeling good about yourself, it is about how you think, what you believe, and how you act. Our confidence is an inner state of mind.
What Can You Do To Be Confident?
Embodying confidence as an individual can be challenging most times. Especially when you are/or have been in an abusive relationship.
Or if you are surrounded by people that do not cheer you on. It can be so challenging, and when an individual lacks self-confidence, there is a high probability that that individual will likely fall into depression and have a shallow degree of self-esteem.
To be confident in whatever you do, you should follow these ten tips.
1. Expose Yourself to Knowledgeable Information.
Ignorance brings about a lack of confidence, knowledge, and information breeds confidence. A well-informed person does not feel intimidated whenever they are called upon to address an audience or handle a simple task because they always know what to say or do at any given time.
For you to boost your confidence, it is imperative to consume helpful information. Read as many books as possible, learn from people who can inspire you to be a better you.
2. Build Your Self-Esteem.
One of the best things you can ever do for yourself is to have high self-esteem. That does not mean to be prideful; it is more like knowing your value and understanding that you are more than your physical looks or your current position in your society.
You can achieve this by limiting yourself from being vulnerable to people’s negative opinions about you and accepting yourself the way you are. Because you are still a work in progress, you are still developing/evolving, and you are unique and special in your way.
3. Start Acting and Stop Procrastinating.
Opportunities come with challenges, and you will never know how good you can function at something without getting started.
Don’t worry about making mistakes when handling any task. Develop a plan, ask questions, and get the job done. Such acts build your confidence and can compel you to achieve more.
4. Start Taking Care of Yourself.
A lot of people feel so insecure about their looks; this has hugely affected their self-confidence. As an individual, you need to start taking care of yourself.
You do not need to have all the money and time in the world to do so, and you must be conscious of the food you consume.
Eat healthy diets, engage in exercise, wear clean and presentable clothes, especially when going on a momentous occasion, avoid overworking yourself.
All these and more can help you to feel good about yourself, hence, boosting your confidence.
5. Avoid Undue Comparison.
One easy way to lose your confidence is by comparing yourself with others. As you strive to upgrade your career, take a step back and recognize those who have succeeded before you. Build relationships with the individuals whom you admire, respect, and want to be like.
Connect with these people, either in person or online. Ask for their advice and learn from their experiences. Those sets of people will challenge and inspire you to be better than you already are. When you surround yourself with positive and successful people, you will have enough confidence to strive well in life.
6. Have Self-Control
The law of self-control states that “you feel confident and positive about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are in control of your life, and you feel negative and lack confidence about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are not in control of your life”.
Having self-control can make you confident and sure about your life; it makes you happy and satisfied with what you have. But when you are not in control of yourself, every situation that comes your way affects you hugely.
Self-control begins with your thoughts. Your thoughts determine your feelings and words, which determines your action. Thus, you must train your mind always to be positive, as it is the guiding mechanism of your life.
7. Be Optimistic
Despite the uncertainty of things in life, it is essential to be optimistic always because optimism fuels your positive energy. It helps you view items from a clearer perspective, which helps build your confidence as you strive in your endeavours.
8. Believe in Yourself and Life’s Possibilities
Whatever you have an intense belief in, tends to reflect in your reality. Not believing in yourself and the possibilities of life can limit you from achieving your ultimate goals. One of your biggest obstacles in life is self-limiting beliefs. This kills confidence and limits one from striving well in life.
9. Limit Excessive Expectations
You must understand that we live in a world of uncertainty that tends to change our plans in most cases. When you expect too much from things, probably because you invested so much time, resources, and energy into it, you might get disappointed by the outcome, which will tell on your confidence. You will start feeling as though you are not good enough at what you do.
10. Think Positively
You are a living magnet, and you attract into your life the people, resources, ideas, and circumstances that are in harmony with your dominant thoughts.
The universe exhibits intense energy that connects with our mind’s power in such a way that when we resonate with successful people and their accomplishments, we get attracted and become vulnerable to succeed like them. Such attraction is also the reason why the law of repulsion states that “if you hold a negative thought against someone/thing, you repel anything positive associated with that thing out of your life”.
What you despise, you will never become, even in your heart. Whatever you respect or love, you attract.
Show genuine and sincere admiration to successful people by focusing on their strengths and not their flaws. That will help you to be more confident about yourself.
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